Writing For The Fun Of It

It's late and I just feel like writing. A funny thing happens when you end up doing the thing you love for a living. Most of the time you don't love it. You tolerate it because you know that without it you'd have to find another way to make a living. So tonight it's just ...

Finding Justice In Douglasville, Georgia

Like many recently, I was on cloud nine when I heard about the heavy sentence a white supremacist couple got in Georgia. Kayla Norton and Jose “Joe” Torres (though I don't know any white supremacists named Jose) got a combined 19 years for pulling a gun out on a bunch of little black kids at ...

Is It Inappropriate to Call Kids ‘Sexy’?

“You look sexy!” exclaims my neighbor to my 6-year-old daughter. I laugh uncomfortably because though I know she’s showing some knee, I’d never call her sexy. She’s cute. Kids are cute. They’re not doing anything to warrant sexual attention. My daughter looks at me confused because we’ve had conversations about the word "sexy" in the past, ...

Black Lotus: The Best Memoir On Racial Identity This Year.

“How do you stop a n***er from jumping on the bed?” asked Sil Lai Abrams’ younger sister. “You put Velcro on the ceiling!” As they both roared with laughter, Sil Lai’s father came charging into the room and said, “I don’t know why you’re laughing, Sil Lai, you’re one,” stopping them in their tracks. This is how ...

For Dads Planning To Have The Sex Talk With Daughters

The other day I was explaining to my 6-year-old daughter why a friend’s dog had been humping her leg, and the next thing you know it turned into a talk about where babies come from. Though I managed to keep it simple enough to satisfy her curiosity, I know that she’ll be back. As I ...